By Melody Gluth
First dates can be tough for most of us. One little mistake can make the difference between a first date that falls flat and the start of a potential new relationship. Since we all could use a little advice in this realm, here are some easy tips to follow in order to help you have a great first date.
Do not be late! Try to leave early, so you can avoid being late. But, if you feel like you are going to be late, let them know as soon as possible. Do not wait to send them a text until you are already late. According to Adrian Furhnam, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at University College London and the Norwegian Business School, people do not mind waiting if they know how long they have to wait. He also strongly recommends you apologize to them once again when you arrive.
One of the most important parts of a first date is taking time to get to know them. Ask them questions about themselves, let them do the talking, and wait for your turn to speak. Asking questions conveys engagement and interest, and people love to talk about themselves. They also love a good listener that takes notice to their interests and their life. Try to keep the conversation going and developing. If an awkward silence arises, try to use some open ended questions that will spark up a conversation.
Do your homework and find a good venue for your first date. It might be better to meet up somewhere quiet first, so you can actually hear each other. You can’t get to know someone if you can’t hear a word they’re saying, and vice versa! Websites like “Yelp” will give you some good information about the atmosphere of certain bars and restaurants. Try to go somewhere cozy and quiet for a first date.
Put your phone down! Try to avoid electronic devices (including TV screens at a bar or restaurant). Checking your phone makes you comes across as bored, distracted, or as if you’d rather be somewhere else. If you let your eyes wander, your date might think that you are not interested in them, even if you really are. If you absolutely must check your phone, do it quickly, apologize to them, and explain why you had to check it.
Be polite! You want to make a good first impression, so remember to be well-mannered. Hold the door open, pull out a chair, and, most importantly, be respectful to the waiting staff. Being rude to a waiter is frustrating, makes you come across as entitled, and just may be the reason for the lack of a follow-up date.
Do not talk about your ex. Ever. This may seem intuitive to a lot of people, but it is one of the worst mistakes you can make on a first date, that a lot of people tend to make! If you bring them up, it may seem like you have not moved on. If they bring up the subject of exes, keep it brief and polite, and then quickly change the subject.
These tips seem simple enough right? Now go out there and have an awesome first date. Keeping these tips in mind may help you turn a simple first date into a meaningful relationship!